Saturday, April 26, 2014

"Mommy, Don't Say That!"

I was at Kroger the other day when I witnessed a young girl, probably 9 or so, playing with the underside of her mom's upper arm.  The mom was not a big lady, I am guessing an average size 12, but I could tell she felt embarrassed. She immediately stopped her daughter and said, " Don't," and then added "I am so fat and my arms are ugly." Her daughter looked sorrowful, then concerned and said, "Mommy, don't say that, you're beautiful."

The child's words repeated over and over in my head all day, "Mommy, don't say that."

It made me think about this age's standard of beauty. It also occurred to me that this child felt as if she were somehow responsible for her mother's self esteem and wanted to make her feel better.

To be sure, you want to be healthy. I am overweight and I know that, while I am healthy for the moment, being overweight, obese even, puts me at a greater risk for some unsavory things that could compromise my health. But, negative talk in front of our children, even to ourselves in front of a mirror, is detrimental to our relationships.  It also puts our daughters and sons at risk of falling for the world's idea of beauty and most people will never attain that.

Our kids love us. We are their mommies. My youngest daughter recently told me I was the most beautiful person she ever met.  She really does think that. Instead of saying what was in my head - "You haven't met a lot of people then!" - I only said, "Thank you, Baby!" and gave her a big hug. I told her she was the most beautiful 6 year old ever. She said, "I know!" HA!  :) :) :)

If the children who really believe that we are stunningly gorgeous and the smartest people ever,  hear us criticize ourselves and put ourselves down, they tend to think they will never be smart or beautiful, after all, if the person who currently rocks their world can't be, then neither can they.

I felt sad for the child in the store, who so wanted her mother to be happy with herself.  She felt the burden of her mother's own lack of confidence. When we put ourselves down in front of our kids, they will take that cross upon themselves.  It is not fair to them.

So, Mommy, don't say that. Don't put yourself down, or others who look less than your idea of beauty. Allow yourself to live freely in confidence and know - you are beautiful. You have children who sincerely believe that. Don't let them believe otherwise.  Don't allow them to bear the burden of making you feel better - because they will bear the burden.

Allow them to believe you are beautiful. Allow them to believe they are beautiful.

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Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Why Does Young Living Oils Use Multi-Level Marketing and Do I Have to Sell?

When I share how Young Living Essential Oils have worked for my family, I usually don’t mention the marketing aspect of it, unless I am asked. Let’s face it, the phrase multi-level marketing sends people scurrying! Most people aren’t interested and are even turned off by the idea of direct sales. I wanted to address part of the reason behind Young Living Oils doing things the way they do and to share some good news with you!

Young Living Oils does, in fact, use a direct sales, MLM system for selling their products, but why? While I have met many great people through Young Living and know some women and men who are very high up in the company, and I know they genuinely care about the product that they are giving to you, and I know they care about helping your family becoming healthy, I also know that unless Young Living is selling their products they aren’t going to be around for long! Young Living has some choices: They can pay for typical marketing,  get into some big box stores and sell their products through them, dealing with all of the issues that come from selling to a company that may or may not even care about the product, but are willing to sell because it helps their bottom line, or they could employ actual users of the oils to help “advertise” through word of mouth. They decided that rather than paying advertisers they would rather pay families who are actually using the oils! It makes perfect sense! Families who are using the oils and are seeing real benefits are more likely to spread the word and as payment for taking time to share, distributors are offered the chance to make a cut of the sales! As distributors spread the news about Young Living Oils health benefits, they can choose to make a living from it and let me tell you, the potential is awesome! I casually shared what my family was doing with Young Living Oils and before I knew it I was bringing in a reasonable and steadily increasing check each month plus getting my own oils free!


What if you wanted to use Young Living Oils but don’t wish to sell? This is what sets Young Living
Oils out from many other MLM set ups. Think of Young Living as a club discount. You pay the fee ($150 for the premium kit) in return you get the 11 oils, a diffuser, samples, a roller filament, educational information, the distributor discount and the health benefits of the oils! I don’t know about you, but so far all my other “club” memberships haven’t given me anything but the right to walk through their warehouse! On top of the great things you get with the membership, YOU ARE NOT REQUIRED TO SELL! That’s right! If all you want to do is order oils for yourself and friends and family, you can do that! And guess what else? You don’t have to make a monthly purchase! You need only to make $50 in purchases over the entire year to stay active, and it gets even better. If you do happen to go inactive, you simply call, place an order and BAM!, you are reactivated. It really is that easy.

If the thought of having to deal with a multi-level marketing "scheme" has kept you from reaping the benefits of using Young Living Essential Oils, I truly hope that this post has helped quell those fears. These essential oils really work. The quality is outstanding and the company is fantastic. If you find out you love the oils enough to want to share and possibly get your oils free and maybe even make a little extra income, that is fantastic. If you just want them for yourself, that is great too! Either way, I am happy to answer questions and to help you get started!

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