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Monday, March 11, 2013

The Reading Lesson Review


GENERAL INFORMATION: The Reading Lesson – Teach your child to read in 20 easy lessons by Michael Levin, M.D. and Charan Langston, M.S.. This curriculum can be purchased on Amazon.com, Walmart.com and Barnes and Noble for typically under $20. This curriculum also has other items that can be added in order to make it more than just a reading curriculum! The additional separate components also include smaller parent books for different age levels that feature verbal math lessons, that is, step-by-step math without using pencil or paper. The Sounds of Letters DVD also teaches your child how letters of the alphabet sound, and there are also CD-ROMs with stories for your child to read (parent directed NOT a game format). But this curriculum doesn’t just meet the needs of your beginning reader. They also have a book titled Big Words for Little Kids (ages 8-11) which is geared for parents to teach their children how to identify and separate words into their roots, various prefixes and suffixes in order to help them learn the meanings of unknown words. Although I have not had the opportunity to use this Big Words book with my older elementary student yet, I am looking forward to it and am sure that it will prove to be a valuable resource.
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For the purposes of this review I will only be referring to the Reading Lesson book and the Verbal Math Lesson Level One for ages 4-7. Mental math seems to be a lost art. With the exponential growth of technology and gadgets, it seems as though very little if any instruction is focused on learning to process mathematics in a mental way, sans pencil and paper. I was pleasantly surprised to find a verbal math book geared towards early learners (4-7). I really enjoyed how this verbal math book utilizes language to hone mental math skills at an early age, making the connection from concrete to verbal. Sure, mathematical rules are taught, but moreover, what is also reinforced is essentially the mental wrestling with basic math in the form of oral word problems from basic to more complex. At such an early age, I see this as a great benefit for all learners, actively engaging them in critical thinking. For those who are more verbally inclined, this is a fantastic way to reinforce learning in an outside of the box way.


The Reading Lesson book was different than anything we had tried before. Beginning with the alphabet and the sounds, putting those sounds together, and reading words, it is also uniquely different in that it specifically and gradually introduces punctuation as well. Such as, what do commas, question marks and periods look like at what do readers do when they see them? Each lesson can be done at your own pace, and is prefaced with helpful notes for the teacher as to what will be taught, warnings of possible problem areas for your learner as well as encouragement to take your time.

I have tried several other reading programs with my children over the years, and this one is definitely worth looking into. Others have been dogmatic and not very visually appealing in their approach but here the cute drawings, clear and uncluttered pages, as well as concise teacher directions make this one different from most. While the book itself contains “stories” we really did miss with this curriculum was the ability to hold books and turn the pages of pint sized books. There are many additional resources that are available on CD-ROM, yet the one thing that we treasure is the joy of holding actual books in our hands from which to read. However, each family is different and this curriculum just might suit your family’s needs perfectly!

-Tara


Tara is a married home schooling mom of 2 who enjoys spending time with family and friends, serving in her church and passionately pursuing adoption. She has resisted the urge to blog for years now, but fears she may be losing the battle.



Thursday, April 26, 2012

The Weaver Review

It just isn't possible to sum up The Weaver in a paragraph. So I suggest that you grab a cup of tea or some chocolate and put your feet up for a few minutes while I tell you our experience thus far!

When I first started homeschooling my preschooler in 2004, I was drawn to the idea of a Unit Study approach. I loved the idea that I could teach both kids on the same topic but at their own level. I looked over some types of Unit Studies and just didn't feel like God was opening the door for me to use any of them. Either it was clearly not for our family, or it was so overwhelming to me that I couldn't picture how to make it work. I tried various styles of learning, and all of them were wonderful in their own way. But something still seemed to be missing and my longing for unit studies didn't go away.
Unit studies have a base that all other subjects are centered around. For example, many are history based. As the student learns a new part of history, all the other school subjects deal with the same topic. Some are based on science. But still, none of them stood out.
I didn't want to just have 'Bible time' as part of our day. I wanted every part of our education to point our eyes to our Creator. And, it is sad to say, sometimes Bible time would get left out of our day because we ran out of time.

No matter how good my boys are (and I do think they are pretty good kids), they had many days where apathy was the attitude toward their school work. I know that we had the curriculum we had because I prayed and felt so certain in what I bought. And I still feel certain, I believe God had us where He wanted us, using what we were supposed to use.

In the late fall of 2010, I once again found myself asking the Lord if there was something else I had missed. I truly don't recall where The Weaver first popped up. But it was online somewhere. One reference lead to another. I was getting very curious and excited!

I wasn't looking to change things THAT year. I was thinking ahead to next year. But along came a sweet woman (you know who you are!) who happened to have an extra set of Weaver volume 1. I didn't expect to see it come so soon, but the mail moved FAST and it was at my home in a matter of a few days. I tore open the box and started to devour the information inside! It was as if this was written just for us! I would start using Weaver in January!

What is it that makes me love it so? First, this curriculum is based in Scripture. So let's say that today we read about the Tower of Babylon. We'll then start learning about architecture. Then we'll build some sugar cube buildings. With that in mind, you will never run out of time for Bible, because it all STARTS in the Bible! You can't do any other school work without opening in the Word!
Library time is always fun for us. We love it! But now it's a scavenger hunt. We look ahead at the unit we'll study and write down the topics, the books the author suggests, and a few rabbit trail ideas of our own. Then we head to the library with our list in hand ready to attack! We come home with stacks of rich videos and books. This is the ONLY weakness that I see in Weaver, the book list. Some of the books are very hard to find, and may seem dated. I don't feel discouraged by this, though. Instead, we just enjoy our scavenger hunt, both in the library and in our home library! I have found the Apologia elementary books work beautifully with the Weaver Curriculum, as well as several other books and DVDs.

Before going any further, let's go through the binders together...
Day by Day... Some people opt out of this planner, but I love it. I think you have to remind yourself that it is a tool. You aren't a slave to the planner. You can do, or not do, whatever you like. Each unit is separated by a divider. At the beginning of each unit divider is a "Unit Preparation" page (or pages.) Becky Avery (the author) has put these pages together for the educator to read in advance. It explains what you'll be teaching, possible book suggestions for read alouds, and supplies you may need.
From there, each page is labeled by the day. So you'll see Chapter 1: Day 1. You won't see Monday, Tuesday... There is no hurry in this. You do each day as you feel you are ready. Under the Chapter and Day is room for you to write in the date, and she has the theme written. Ie- "The city, Creation vs. Evolution." Under that you'll see a "thought for the day" section. These can be read to the student or can just be a pick-me-up for the teacher.

Each subject is in bold print below. So it opens with Bible, listing the reference to read, it tells you which bible lesson you will read from in Volume 1, and any other supplies or information you'll need for the bible study on that day.

Below that comes the Social Studies OR Science section. I say 'or' because you trade off every other day. This keeps it fresh for my boys! They love doing something different every other day. Under Social Studies or Science you'll see a list of grade levels and objectives. We'll come back to that in a bit.
After that is Language Arts OR Health and Safety, again, alternating. Then a list of books and supplies needed, creative writing suggestions, Wisdom Words (if you so chose to use her Language Arts program). And it ends with Math and Reading sections which are left blank. This way you can fill in what you want to use in your home.

A little side note... We have chosen not to use Wisdom Words. However, it is a fabulous program and I wouldn't have a problem using it at all. Instead, we chose the Phonics Road series. We are using Teaching Textbooks for our math program. These two resources keep me consistent and focused in those areas, and Weaver allows me to have freedom in the rest of our studies. I believe this gives my split Type A/ADHD personality a healthy balance.

Now for the BIG binder... Volume 1! Upon opening, you'll notice it has an overview of the entire volume. This is handy to see what you'll be covering at a glance. Mrs. Avery then has several pages of information, introduction, and ideas on scheduling (if you aren't using the Day by Day planner.) Then you'll see those lovely Unit dividers. Open divider Unit 1 and you'll see a Unit and chapter overview outline. "Unit 1, Chapter 1, 10 days" is the first heading, with the outline below. Of course you can make a unit last as long as you like. Remember, you are in charge of the flow, so if you want to follow rabbit trails, go for it! But she suggests how long a unit ought to take for planning purposes and to keep us from taking years to complete one volume. Then comes "For Your Information" where you, the teacher, will learn more about the topics you'll be teaching. So far all these pages have been white in color. The Bible Lessons and suggested reading list will also be in white. After that the colors change and they become quite important. 
This is another of the areas that I love in Weaver! Each grade, from K-6, is separated by color. So all pages of lessons for Kindergarten are golden rod. If I have a student who does work at a K level, I will turn to the golden rod pages no matter which unit I am on. She assigns them as grade levels, but you decide what level you want your child to work. In fact, they may be working at K level in science and social studies, but in language arts you feel like putting them on the grade 1 work. You have total control over the work they will be doing.
At the end of each chapter you'll see white pages again. Don't overlook them! There, you will find vocabulary words, health and safety, field trips, observation projects and memory verse suggestions.

So how do these 2 binders work together? Remember, earlier, when I said I'd get back to the grade levels and objectives? Here we go! So when Day by Day Unit 1 Day 1 says to teach your K student Science Objective #1... you'll go to Volume 1 binder, open it up to Unit 1 Chapter 1, turn to the golden rod colored pages labelled Kindergarten, look under the science section and read Objective 1! Day by Day will tell you exactly where to find everything in the Volume that you'll do that day. Simple!

At the very back of the Volume you will find the Resource tab. Mrs. Avery will often refer you to something in that resource section. So don't overlook it, there are several useful pages! Dads can get overlooked in our homeschool day. But in the Resource section you'll find A Father's Devotional Partner for Weaver. It is only a handful of pages, but it explains Weaver to the Dads and it has index card forms that you can copy and give to your husband so he is up to date on what the kids are learning. This way he can have conversations around the dinner table with the kiddos about whatever Bible verses or unit themes you are covering. This isn't a required task, and it isn't to bring guilt into homes where Dads aren't involved in the school. But if you have a husband who is willing and wants to know more about your day, this tool is really priceless. And it's unique! I haven't seen this sort of tool in other curricula.

One quick note: There are 7-12 grade supplements that you can order to make this curriculum go all the way through graduation! I haven't used them yet, personally, so I can't speak to them. Maybe someone will leave a comment here that explains those further. Or, possibly after I use it next year with my oldest I can update this post. But I thought it important to let you know it does go through grade 12. In the same manner, there is a Weaver Interlock binder for Pre-K! So it can be a complete curriculum from beginning to graduation if you wanted.

What about the cost of all those books she suggests? I have found that some of the suggested Milliken books are worth having, however I bought them used on Amazon and other places. And I wouldn't recommned them unless you are dealing with upper ages, possibly 4th grade up. The Usborne books are great. They are generally easy to find in the library, but worth looking for if your library doesn't carry them. Speaking of the library, most of the topics you'll cover can be studied in depth with books found at the library. So you could honestly do most of your studies with the library and the internet. No major book investment needed! I also found that many of my books on my shelf at home have worked just fine.
In the early Weaver days I would pull out the huge Volume binder and the not-so-small Day by Day binder. They'd take up the floor by my feet and part of the table as I'd flip through looking for each activity. This wasn't so fun... So I decided to consolidate into one binder thanks to the advice of others who went before me. It is essentially my 'Brain'. In the front I have a little DVD pocket for our math and grammar DVDs and CD-ROMs. Then I have my school planner. And behind that I have a page with our "Mission Statement." The first tab is Day by Day. I pull the Day by Day pages for the unit we are studying out of the big binder and put it in this section. It may be 4 or 5 pages, or it could be a couple dozen depending on the size of the unit, but that's easier to carry with me than a big binder. My next tab is Unit Information. I use that for any of the Overview and For Your Information pages out of the big Volume for that unit. Then I have Boys' Studies where I pull their grade level pages from the big volume binder just for the unit we're studying. The next tab is Resources where I have pulled all the resource pages from the big volume and keep them handy in my daily binder. The next tab is Master's Loom. I highly recommend ordering this resource from www.unofficialweaver.com. This is a topical index and biblical reference chart to accompany the Weaver Curriculum. So if we're studying Helen Keller in Volume 1, I can look at the index and see we'll also study her life in Volume 5. This helps me to know just how much I need to cover on Helen Keller. If I am covering Herbivores in volume 1 and see that it isn't covered again in any future volume, then I may want to be sure we've learned all the material I had planned. Another tab I have is the Overview of all the volumes. I like being able to see the topics we'll cover in each volume. My last tab is Books. I have to thank my husband for this one. He had me begin a book list organized by subject years ago. This way when I am at a used curriculum sale I can flip open my list and see if I already have that book. And on the last page I have a hand written wish list with the cost of each book written beside them so I know a good deal when I find it. All of this fits in a standard 2" binder. I found my binder for 25c at a thrift store. So this doesn't have to be very fancy. But it is much easier for me to use than having to pull each big binder out each day. And it is handy for travel as well!

What does a typical day look like for us? Amazingly smooth compared to before! Remember when I said there was great apathy many days in our schooling? No more! We usually start with our AWANA memory verses. Then we'll move into the bible study and sometimes I'll add an extra book or even bring out a hymn CD to sing together if it fits the lesson. Then we move right into the topics that the Day by Day has laid out. The wonderful thing about a unit study is that both boys are learning the same things together! When we've finished with the work listed, I pull out the Phonics Road to Spelling and Reading for my youngest, and my oldest works quietly on his Teaching Textbooks. Then my youngest moves to his Teaching Textbooks while I work with my oldest on the Latin Road. We do all of this from 9 to noon each day. Any time left over can be spent with my oldest doing a read aloud with his little brother. Last week we studied composers, so he would read a picture book to his brother about any given composer. After lunch we usually have a very free flowing time. The kids may take the afternoon to enjoy the sunshine outdoors. They may play card games. Or they may be found turning their school work into play. And this isn't unusual since we've started The Weaver! They learned about architecture, so in free time they watched DVDs about buildings and bridges and they built them out of Legos.

Gone are the days of complaining about school. Back are the days of awe and wonder over what we're learning! Do we still have bad days? Sure! I think any homeschooler has to question their sanity at times. But I am so grateful for the joy and interest that The Weaver has brought back to our learning!

Feel free to ask questions or post comments. :) God bless you in your journey, no matter what it looks like.

~Christa

Friday, July 8, 2011

DISCIPLESHIP: TEACHING YOUR CHILD WHAT IT MEANS TO REFLECT CHRIST




Richele homeschools 4 children and has taught everything from tying your shoes to the laws of physics but nothing could prepare her for the mountains of laundry and the many blessings that would fill her life. She blogs at Under the Golden Apple Tree.


1 CORINTHIANS 11:1
Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ.
Paul is speaking about being Christ like in his spiritual walk and encourages us to be Christ like in our walk.

MATTHEW 5:48
Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.
In this verse the term “perfect” is not suggesting sinless perfection yet means “complete” as in having a complete love like God’s love. Meaning one should love those who love him and those who do not.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO REFLECT CHRIST?
To reflect Christ in our daily lives means we must walk in the spirit and exhibit love while always remembering who we represent. We are no longer our own but bought with a price as it states in 1 Corinthians 7:23: Ye are bought with a price; be not ye servants of men.
Learning that we reflect Christ daily is a hard lesson to learn for adults much less children. Daily we are faced with stress, trials, distraction, and the flesh. It is all too easy to forget we are ambassadors for Christ in this world when someone takes our toy, breaks our iPod, or disappoints us. Consider this verse from Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing:
O to grace how great a debtor
Daily I'm constrained to be!
Let Thy goodness, like a fetter,
Bind my wand'ring heart to Thee.
Prone to wander Lord, I feel it
Prone to leave the God I love;
Here's my heart O take and seal it,
Seal it for Thy courts above.

METHODS OF TEACHING CHILDREN ABOUT REFLECTING CHRIST

The Man in Uniform Activity
Show your child pictures of men and women in uniforms. For example, show your child a picture of a policeman and ask him who this person is and what this person represents. Ask your child to give you characteristics he expects from this person. Now ask him why he has these expectations. Most likely your child will view this person based on the uniform and the fact this uniform represents a concept beyond the person’s individual personality. Ask your child what he would think if this person acted the exact opposite of his expectations. For example, what if the police officer committed criminal acts? What if a doctor did not treat a patient but harmed a patient? What if a chef fixed the plumbing in the kitchen and did not prepare the food?
The purpose of this lesson is to bring the understanding that when one puts on a uniform one represents ideals which must be upheld or risks making all of those in that uniform look bad.

The Rude Waitress/The Nice Waitress
This activity requires play acting. Make a made up restaurant name tag for yourself. Invite your child to come visit your restaurant. Set up something simple in your dining area and have a snack prepared. Once your child sits at the table you will want to portray a rude waitress. At first your child may be shocked or laugh. After a few minutes or so of this play acting ask your child if she would ever visit the restaurant again. Chances are she will say no. Then explain that the restaurant consists of other waitresses and staff that may be very nice yet one rude waitress spoiled the reputation of an entire establishment. Now explain how a Christian represents Christ and while being only one person can tarnish the image of Christ in the eyes of other’s.
Next, have your child play the waitress. However, this time we want to play a waitress who represents her restaurant in a positive way, serves gratefully, and is filled with joy. Explain you would certainly come back to that restaurant and love to learn more about it. Ask your child to correlate the experience to a Christian representing Christ.

I Work for Jesus Name Tag
Make name tags for you and your child that say “I Work for Jesus”. Now go about your day. Whenever your child disobeys, displays a bad attitude, or grows slack in her countenance gently remind her that she works for Jesus.
This exercise is not to humiliate, demean, confuse, imply legalism, or chastise your child. It is a way of pointing out how actions we allow to pass by or not realize we are doing are unChrist like. It is to serve as a physical reminder that one is always representing Christ. Use your own judgment if you think this lesson would be lost on your child.


The New Kid in Town
This role playing game will involve one person playing herself and one person playing a new neighbor. The first round you will want to play a new neighbor who is fun, nice, and great to be around. After a few minutes ask your child if she would enjoy having this person as a friend? Could she envision having a love for this person?
The second round the new neighbor will be bossy, rude, and hard to like. Now ask your child if she would enjoy having this neighbor as a friend? Ask her if she could envision having a love for this person? Now ask her what Christ would want her to do? Would Christ want you to love this person? Does Christ love this person?
You do not need to act out these scenarios. You can simply tell a story or use puppets or other toys to tell the story.


©Richele McFarlin, 2011




Sunday, November 28, 2010

Gifted Child Series:Asynchronous Development and Grade Acceleration

This post is a contribution by guest blogger Chrystal Smith.
Check out her book store Barefoot Books for great children's books!
To read part 1 of the Gifted Child Series Visit Here.

These two topics sort of go hand in hand, but at the same time, they’re completely different. I almost don’t know where to begin, because the explanation becomes a circular one at times. Forgive me. This will be a long post, I’m sure.

Gifted children learn differently than most of the population. One of the best indicators of giftedness is a very obvious accelerated development in one area while the other areas are either normal or perhaps even a tiny bit behind normal. It’s not uncommon for a gifted child to be 3, 4, 5, or even 10 years ahead in just one subject like math or reading, while the others are on target, give or take a year. Why? Gifted children process information more quickly than average most of the time, they dive deeper than other children their age, and with each new thing they learn, they’re able to expand upon it. The abstract mind is one of the last parts of the brain to develop, but in gifted children, that development happens very early (especially in those whose strength lies in math).

For example, let’s say you have a gifted child who is an early reader. At the age of 12-24 months, the child already identifies all of the names and sounds of the alphabet without any “teaching” from the parents. By age 2-3 the child is putting sounds together for phonetically correct words and is identifying advertisements or logos with non-phonetic (or even misspelled) words. With or without a little guidance, the child has figured out common non-phonetic words by age 3-4. Is it any wonder that the child by age 5-6 will have an amazing vocabulary (reading books that have paragraphs and chapters rather than 3-4 letter words), a vivid imagination, and the understanding of many subjects his/her peers have never seen? The child will be reading books at the middle school level about horses or magicians, just for fun. He will have already devoured (and probably memorized) Dr. Seuss, which further developed rhyme, rhythmic oral reading, and speed of reading.

Amazing? Eh… maybe to some. But there’s a down side to this. A child who learns to read well and early using phonics rather than sight words will transition from oral reading to silent reading long before peers do. This is the reason many of them are overlooked, considered normal, or even considered lazy if placed in a public school classroom. Walking into a room full of 4-6 year olds during “quiet time”, you would expect to see all of them flipping the pages of a book. It’s hard to tell which ones are looking at the pictures and which ones are silently reading the words on the page. It’s even harder to tell which ones have moved past the words on the page and have started to develop their own ideas about where the story might lead them, why a character acts in a particular way, and what impact the story might have on real life. The really good readers will appear lazy or disobedient. Why read a book about Sam the Clam with only one sentence per page when you could daydream to make up a much more elaborate story on your own?

A child like this becomes bored very, very quickly in a classroom setting surrounded by age level peers. The child will feel like a superstar for a few weeks, but soon it becomes painful obvious to them that no effort is required. These children have two options most of the time: sit back and do nothing (grades start to fall completely, or grades stagnate because tests scores are high but regular work isn’t completed) or they become a disruption (a class clown or class bully). A very small number will actually request something more, but “more” isn’t the same thing as “better”. To a gifted child, “more” work is pushing a rock up a hill over and over only to watch it roll back down, while “better” work is designing a way to get the rock effortlessly up the hill in record time and have it stay in place.

When a 6-7-8 year old child is reading at a high school or adult level, simply pulling the child out once a week for a gifted enrichment day won’t cure the problems with grades or behavior, and it CERTAINLY won’t challenge the child. All children need to be challenged at a proper level, and by that, I mean that a gifted child who is being properly challenged will be asked to do much, much more than a delayed child who is being properly challenged.

The nice thing about homeschooling a gifted child is that you can tailor education to meet the needs of the child on a PER SUBJECT basis. A child who is reading at the middle or high school level at age 5 certainly won’t be able to write like a 12-16 year old. Muscle development and coordination simply aren’t there yet. I know countless mothers of gifted children who tell me they either did all assignments orally with their child, or they did all of the written assignments for their child in the early years (with the child dictating the answers). You know what? I’m one of those moms, so it was a huge relief to find SO many others like me!

Here’s where we get into grade acceleration – which could easily become a novel on its own, so I’ll try to be very brief here. There are many types of acceleration, some of which include:

(1) Homeschoolers who work on a year-round schedule cutting a few years off their child’s pre-college education whether the child is gifted or not. They’re simply making an efficient use of time without changing the level of challenge. This usually isn’t enough for a gifted child.
(2) Subject acceleration is the most common type of acceleration. Sometimes you’ll find it in public schools, but it’s much more common to find this type among homeschoolers. It’s quite normal to see a “2nd grader” doing 2nd grade work in most subjects, but be working from a 3rd grade math book or be asked to dive a little deeper into a reading assignment.
(3) Whole grade acceleration for a gifted child is the type of acceleration that usually results in rude comments from strangers, nagging comments from family, and jealous stares from peers (especially at competitions like spelling bees). Some children are simply not challenged and not happy unless they’re working several years ahead of schedule in all subjects. Some children are “globally gifted” (meaning they excel in more than just one area).

Do all children learn to walk on their 1st birthday? Do all children get their first tooth on the day they turn 6 months old? Of course not! Every child is different. Here’s another thing for you to ponder:

• If a 4 year old weighs 55 lbs and runs like the wind, he’s destined to be a football player.
• If a 4 year old plays the harp like an angel, he’s destined to be a musician.
• If a 4 year old can read Harry Potter cover to cover, discuss the plot twists with you, and argue about what might happen in the next volume, he must have been pushed by his parents to read early. He must be abused.

Right?

Stereotypes like this are what discourage many young, talented children – children who generations ago might have become Newton or Edison. (Most people don’t realize that Einstein didn’t even learn to talk until he was 3 years old.) Perhaps I’ll talk more about acceleration in another post, touching on stereotypes, socialization, etc. In the mean time, be flexible with your children. Let them explore to their hearts’ content, and make learning fun. If that means checking out a book from the young adult section of the library, buying a chemistry set, or learning another language, so be it.

Here are a couple of links you might find interesting as well:

A Nation Deceived - Volume 1 is an overview and is what most people will want. Volume 2 is the nitty gritty statistics behind volume 1 for those who need more detailed information to make an informed decision about their child.

Some of My Best Friends Are Books – Children who read at an accelerated level are often not ready for topics beyond their emotional maturity. This book gives parents many options for children who want to read at one level, but who are only able to process at their age level. It’s great for kids who read 2-3 years ahead of their peers, but it’s not going to help if you have a child reading many, many years beyond their peers.


Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Time Well Spent

Terri Camp is a guest blogger from terricamp.com

I am a mom with teenagers - lots of teenagers! I say that, not to make you groan or feel sorry for me, which is the societal norm, but so you know that I have gone where I am telling you to go. None of my children have been to school. As a homeschool mom raising eight kids eleven years apart, I have had my share of frustrations.

My biggest frustration was that feeling that all I was doing was disciplining children and we weren't getting anything done. There would be times that I would measure my progress by how many books were read, how many pages were complete, how many A's were made, even though I felt like the rest of my life was falling apart around me. I could see results in the "work" that was accomplished. However, there was a catch in my spirit that I was measuring the wrong thing. But Lord, I would plead, I need to feel accomplished! I didn't feel that unless I could see immediate results. Well, let me tell you, the disciplining of our children may not yield immediate results, but most definitely the time spent training them, will be the most rewarding of our lives.

I can honestly say that I have never had a teenager talk back to me. Never. I have never had a teen raise his voice at me. With all my heart, I believe it was because back in the days that they were forming their futures I took the time to discipline them. You know, when they are two they are forming their futures. And their older siblings are also forming their futures. It is amazing for me to see my older kids lovingly discipline their own kids, because they learned that skill at home. I had worried that if I spent too much time disciplining a younger sibling, that the older ones would miss something in their education. That is the furthest thing from the truth. When we make the first things first - the rest will fall into place.

What I realized was the discipline of my children had to take first place, no matter what the rest of the kids were doing. Now that doesn't mean I hovered over my kids and beat them down by picking out every issue in their lives. I have not come so far as to be without sin myself. I think one of the worst things we can do is point out their failings, in the name of discipline. However, establish some very clear guidelines, adhere to them, teach your children to adhere to them, and the rest will fall into pace.

In our house we had a family motto for the kids that went like this, "I obey the first time, every time, without questions, and a smile on my face." Simple, to the point, and easy to remember. I didn't expect perfection out of them, but I did expect them to obey. I knew that everyone makes mistakes and not every mistake needed to be met with discipline. But for sure they had to obey. It may seem simple, but when the kids haven't learned it, they require a lot of time to help them learn.

It's been several years now that I've had to bring up the family motto. Just for fun, I asked Tina, who is 23, if she remembers the family motto. At first she said, "I'm not sure I remember it." So I said, "I obey ..." Quickly she said, "The first time, every time, without excuses, and a smile on my face." She replaced questions with excuses. But I think I like that too.

On those days when you're feeling like all you're ever doing is disciplining your kids, try to remember that the payoff for that is worth more than any page they fill out in their math books, any book they read, any A they receive. When you have a child who grows up with self-discipline, you have a child who has succeeded beyond most of the population. It is definitely Time Well Spent

Terri Camp
Inspirator, Author, Speaker and Mom of 8

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Gifted Child Series:So You Think Your Child is Gifted?

This post is a contribution by guest blogger Chrystal Smith.
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So you think your child is gifted?

I hear them all the time… “When did you first know something was different about your son?”, “My daughter knows her ABC’s… do you think she’s gifted?”, “Everybody’s gifted in their own way,” “My kid does that too, but she’s not gifted,” and “They all even out by 3rd grade, anyway.”

Like any other parenting topic in the universe, there are a lot of people who will give you unsolicited (and sometimes horrible) advice, and there are some people who genuinely care about your family or are genuinely concerned about their own children. So, how DO you know if your child is gifted?

The short answer is to have the child tested. *crickets chirping*

Um… yeah. That’s the SHORT answer. Seriously, the real answer is much longer and much more complicated. What kind of test? How much does it cost? Doesn’t the school system provide gifted testing to everyone in the district? What if my child doesn’t like tests? What if my child has a learning disability or medical disability? How do I know if I even WANT to have my child tested? I mean… what if I test him, he does poorly, and then feels like an idiot? I don’t want to ruin his self esteem!

Ok, so here’s the long answer:

First, you should familiarize yourself with the characteristics of a gifted child. There are lists all over the internet, but most of them have recurring items in their checklists. Gifted children, unless they’re the off-the-scale genius type, will never have all of the characteristics, so don’t panic if your child doesn’t make the cut on a few. However, they will generally have about 90-95% of them unless there is a hidden disability or something like that (which I’ll talk more about in a bit). A wonderful book to give you an idea about your child’s giftedness is (the old version) Losing Our Minds or (the new version) 5 Levels of Giftedness, both by Deborah Ruf. You can get a preview of that book here. If you’re the checklist type, take a look at some of these. They’re all pretty much the same:

What is Gifted?
What is Giftedness?
How to Tell if Your Preschooler is Gifted
How to Tell if your Schooler is Gifted
Traits of a Gifted Child

You’ve read through the lists, and now you’re pretty sure your child is different, right? People have begun to point out the differences in public. Grandparents are whispering behind your child’s back. Ok, so yes, your child is likely gifted, or at the very least, bright. Now what?

Here’s where the testing part comes in. No, school districts are generally NOT required to offer giftedness testing to all students, especially those who don’t attend the public school. Some states don’t even have funding for gifted programs. Not only that, but the test a school gives for giftedness isn’t actually an IQ test at all. Let’s look at it from another perspective. If your child is complaining of headaches, you schedule your child’s annual check-up with the doctor and have a quick little screening test in the doctor’s office, right? Well, if you child can make out the E’s, his vision is perfectly fine. No need to worry. WRONG. Headaches could be a sign of a tracking problem, fatigue, or lazy eye. Those things should be diagnosed by an optometrist or an ophthalmologist, not a simple screening. Gifted testing at the public school is the same. Some kids will test into the gifted program without being gifted at all, and some will miss the cut for a variety of reasons when they’re actually quite gifted. A real IQ test is necessary, and that test must be given by a licensed psychologist (not psychiatrist) who is trained in testing children.

“Sign me up. My 2 year old will be in the psychologist’s office tomorrow!” Hold it, hold it, hold it. No, the absolute earliest you can do comprehensive IQ testing on a child is age 4. Even then, some children aren’t ready. They simply don’t have the attention span or motor skills necessary. The most accurate age for testing is between about ages 5 and 9. Not only that, but the test is quite an investment! Just the basic test will generally cost you around $700 (depending on where you go and what resources are available in your area). It would be worth your time to check your local colleges, because sometimes a grad student can offer the test at a much cheaper rate. If your child maxes out on any of the subtests, he’ll need additional testing as well. I complete package of tests, including IQ, learning style, hidden disabilities, etc. will cost you in the neighborhood of $2-3k, and no, health insurance doesn’t cover it unless a medical condition is suspected. Still interested? I recommend scheduling a conference call with the Gifted Development Center in Denver, CO. Even if you decide not to test right now, the phone call will be money well spent. (In the neighborhood of $200 or so.)

Nope… I haven’t forgotten. What about kids who just “don’t test well”, but they always seem to know the answers? What about children who have ADHD? What about children with dyslexia? These are examples of what’s called “twice exceptional” or “2E” in the gifted community. A really good child psychologist will be familiar with all of those conditions and will be able to make recommendations of giftedness (or not) based on how the child tested, not necessarily the final score. A child could be extremely gifted but still score low on an IQ test.

So, that’s it in a nutshell. Look for more information about giftedness from me in the future. Asynchronous development, levels of giftedness, quirky behaviors, grade acceleration, hiding behind a wall… there’s a lot more to giftedness than a label, just like there’s a lot more to a child than a name on a birth certificate.

Friday, November 12, 2010

Earn Money by Saving Money


It is not my usual topic but Terri over at Families Making Fortunes asked me to guest blog.

I am sure you have heard the phrase “save a penny earn a penny” and let’s not forget the Duggar mantra “buy used and save the rest”. When we are trying to earn money we get caught up in jobs and garage sales, but what about saving money? Doing a few simple things to save money can amount to thousands of dollars a year! These are a few ideas on how to save, I mean earn money.